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This story starts with a crown and a mirror.....
You see, I’m a dad of two children- a pretty darn proud dad. My daughter is the oldest and she turned 3 in January. She has a character trait that I value, and it’s confidence. At least once a day, and sometimes several times a day, my daughter proudly climbs her step-stool in the bathroom, adjusts her crown on top of her head, pulls her shoulders back, looks in the mirror and proclaims “I’m the most beautiful princess in the world.” No hesitation, not in an arrogant manner, just confident.
Tip #1- Say Cheese!
Take a mental photograph of a personal accomplishment. How did you look, how did you feel? Did you celebrate with a fist-pump? Save that mental photo. When you need a boost in confidence, refer to that picture to light your fire.
Self-confidence is a peculiar thing. I believe confidence is an ingredient that is immediately identified in an individual, and often identified even before meeting them. It is an ingredient that can define whether a person lives a successful or unsuccessful life. Self-confidence is demonstrated in behavior, body language, what we say and how we say it. Confidence is a key element in personal leadership. It gives us permission to capture more of what we are capable of becoming; maximizing our potential.
Tip #2- Fake it ‘till you got it!
Not feeling like the ‘Most Beautiful Princess in the World’? Pull your shoulders back, paint on a smile and take a deep breath. Your confidence will instinctively build. Fake it 'till ya' got it!
As I watch my daughter grow, I often wonder if she was she born with her confidence or is it something she has learned. Will it diminish or grow as she gets older? My wife and I consciously work to build her confidence by using encouraging words and challenge her to accomplish daily tasks that she finds particularly difficult. As she grows older, I realize that she will have strong external influences from her friends and teachers that will contribute to her continued development.
Tip #3-Givers Gain!
Encourage others. When you help others build confidence your self-confidence will grow. A simple “Atta’ Boy” or “Great Job today” will go a long way to build your confidence. Who did you encourage today?
It is amazing how quickly self-confidence can be shattered. An aggressive classmate, a poor test score, an uninspired teacher or an uncaring employer can destroy an individual’s confidence in a split-second. It’s a fact, she will face hardships in life, nicks and bruises that stand to taint her self-confidence. At that moment of impact, I hope she will choose to intentionally rebuild her confidence. Never settle for less.
Tip #4- Yes I CAN!
Monitor your self-talk. Dominating negative thoughts crush confidence. Have 3 or 4 positive statements that you can use to replace any negative self-talk. “I am exceptionally confident” will always wash “I can’t do this” down the drain.
Addison reminds me of the importance of self-confidence in my personal leadership development. I will continue to develop confidence to be a great spouse, parent and business leader each and every day. Thanks Addison!
Tip #5- Water the Plants!
Continue to grow. Be a life-long learner. Read an inspirational quote or blog. Study a few pages of a self development book. Spend time with successful leaders. Listen to a positive CD during your drive to work.
Now it’s your turn, how can you build your confidence this week? Share your success story with me Dane@TheDynamicLeader.com . It’s time to step up, stand out, and move forward!
Until next time,
Dane